In this article series, we’ve explored the emotion-body connection, in particular trapped or, as actress Suzanne Somers describes it, “entombed” emotions. Interestingly, we don’t entomb joy or love or gratitude. We want to bury grief, anger, hatred, irritation, guilt and shame, jealousy and other unpleasant emotions in an emotional graveyard. RIP Shame, Grief, Anger. However, as we’ve seen, we end up burying these feelings in our bodies because we think we shouldn’t be feeling them. The emotions, unreleased, have nowhere to go and so they become dis-ease: cancer (unresolved resentment), arthritis, heart disease, and so on.
This isn’t about blaming sick people. It’s about awareness and taking responsibility.
Somewhere in our lives we encountered toxic situations and people that threatened our security and our survival. Perhaps we had a college professor, partner, boss or spouse that became controlling out of his or her (controlling people are usually male) own fears and buried emotions. In a future article on empowerment versus control, I’ll talk more about that. What you need to know is that in addition to the emotions you inherited from your family of origin, DNA transfer, and past lives/soul journey, you also experienced unwanted emotions from the relationship with a boss, a lover, or a spouse. These unwanted emotions replicated your inherited feelings in the principle of “like attracts like,” which you may have read about in the bestselling book The Secret.
What does this have to do with trapped emotions and disease? Everything. With those trapped emotions still hanging around rent-free, you continue to encounter situations like that abusive boss/client or passive-aggressive partner/spouse. Like attracts like. Or as we say in neuroscience, “Neurons that fire together wire together.” So if those memories are still taking up space in your cells, your life sends you more bad bosses just to prove your version of reality. You expect them, because “that’s the way the world is.” Rather than be vulnerable and show your feelings, you keep socking away or stuffing the emotions. No one likes to feel sad—in the movie “Inside Out,” the character Joy tries to micromanage the character Sadness by keeping her inside a circle. Another way to trap those uncomfortable emotions in order to feel safe is to build up a heart wall. More on this later.
It all boils down to fear, which can keep you from danger as Gavin de Becker says (The Gift of Fear), but also make you see snakes everywhere—this is called the fear paralysis
People seek safety. Survival is our #1 drive according to Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs. The world seems like a dangerous place, especially now. Unfortunately, all that safety doesn’t protect us from disease. But it protects us from life and being our authentic selves.
I’m going to say something politically incorrect: Many people don’t want to heal.
Think of people in your life that know they should stop smoking or lose weight, but never do. They don’t have time to exercise, life is too stressful right now and they need a cigarette to get through it, they don’t have the money or time to make the changes. In any event, it’s in their genes.
Have you noticed how many organizations we have for diseases? Heart disease, COPD, cancers, Parkinson’s disease, diabetes, fibromyalgia, and arthritis. The global cost of these is staggering. According to a report by the World Economic Forum, “Over the next 20 years, NCDs will cost more than US$ 30 trillion, representing 48% of global GDP in 2010, and pushing millions of people below the poverty line. Mental health conditions alone will account for the loss of an additional US$ 16.1 trillion over this time span, with dramatic impact on productivity and quality of life.” So why do these non-communicable diseases exist with all the trillions of dollars and all the awareness worldwide?
Five-time New York Times bestselling author and medical intuitive Caroline Myss (www.myss.org) said during a talk I attended, “When illness is part of your spiritual journey no medical intervention can begin to heal you until your spirit has begun to make the changes that the intervention was designed to inspire.” She added, “Real healing requires forgiveness.”
However, many people check the box for the illness and stay a cancer patient (or survivor), a diabetic, and so on. Disease, according to Caroline Myss, is the new currency. She remarked, “When I began my work…I thought people wanted to heal. Now I don’t believe that. I don’t believe that at all. We’re addicted to the power of the wound, to the privilege the wound gives us. We don’t want to be in pain—but we sure don’t want to heal.”
Think of the worst hypochondriac you know. By constantly talking about aches and pains and worrying about disease, your hypochondriac friend or relative has your ear. They have your attention. They have your sympathy. This is what they are seeking outside themselves—a balm for the true wound, which is invisible. The trapped emotions created that original wound. Caroline Myss, who studied with renowned Harvard-trained neurosurgeon C. Norman Shealy, calls this phenomenon “woundology”. As she writes in her blog, “You were born to make a difference in this world just by being a whole human being. Never tell yourself that is not good enough – that’s how darkness speaks to you.”
At this point the angry comments and how-dare-yous will fly. How dare I blame people who are in pain? How dare I victimize or offend (in a world that is increasingly willing to be offended) people who suffer with chronic or terminal disease? Who am I to judge?
For many years I didn’t heal. For many years I spent my life worse off than I am now. As I like to tell people, “You should have seen me before.” I come to this knowledge through this Earth School. I built up a Heart-Wall to protect my heart.
The heart wall can lead right to the ICU. You literally can die of a broken heart, or spend the next twenty or thirty years in doctors’ offices and hospitals.
The late Wayne Dyer said that everything you do has a payoff. The payoff of living in pain and disease is that you don’t have to confront your “stuff” or change your path. The payoff of releasing your “stuff” is that, in addition to healing dis-ease, you discover your true path. Western medicine puts the responsibility on the disease, but quantum medicine and alternative healing put the power right back in your hands where it’s been all along.
- Perfect health
- Time with your loved ones
- Pursuing your true passions and interests
- Career success
- Giving back to others
- More joy
That can be yours. You can make the choice to heal your DNA and heal your trapped emotions. It starts by unlocking your heart, which is the subject of the next article.
- “Always speak how you feel and never apologize for being real.”
- “We are a spiritual being in a chemical body, electrically stimulated and emotionally controlled.”
- “If you don’t feel, you are not real.”
- “You can heal what you feel.”
- “When your vibe shifts, your tribe shifts.”
Bryan Mallindine Bio: Dr. Bryan Mallindine, MA, MBA, MHerb, CPA, CA, CPCM, PhD, is President and CEO of the world's leading portal of Quantum Medicine and has been featured on Discovery Channel’s Health Heroes. Who’s Who in the World. Bryan was awarded Californium a Business Person of the Year in 2006. Born in Canada, he has resided in four continents. Bryan currently lives in California and in Lago di Lugano, Switzerland and is relocating back to Bermuda. Besides having worked with injured US veterans, Bryan has held senior executive positions in Fortune 500 companies, hosted a radio talk show (BrYan's Entrepreneurial Edge), chaired a department at University of California San Diego and has lectured at several international universities. A single father, he coached hockey and power skating. Contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org. Ask him about his work in Quantum Medicine, photobiomodulation. quantum biofeedback, brain herbs, laser therapy, and life path coaching.