by Kendall SummerHawk
There’s nothing quite like the feeling of knowing you have the full belief of your spouse, supporting you in your business.
But what do you do if (or when) that support isn’t there? How can you get your guy (or you partner) to support you when they may be facing their own doubts about the economy, how success may change you, their own frustrated ambitions, you name it!
Ideally, the loved one you live with is behind you every step of the way. But the reality is, a lot of women entrepreneurs struggle with getting the kind of unwavering, fully committed, unconditional support they need. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t think my husband will go for this” when it comes to investing in your business then you know what I’m talking about!
Happily, there ARE simple steps you can take immediately to get your guy more onboard in supporting as you invest in growing your business, and even potentially strengthen your relationship in the process!
Step #1 Stop Playing “Little Girl”
Be honest — when you’re talking to your partner about your business plans, are you inwardly seeking permission and hoping to gain approval? All this kind of behavior does is set you (and him!) up for a power struggle.
When you give up your power in this way, you create a shaky emotional foundation that will make it difficult for you to gain clients, attract marketing partners and charge what you’re worth.
Instead, have an honest conversation with your mate where you present your vision, your plans for attracting new clients and your estimates of where you want to be at 90-days, 6 months, 1 year and more.
Let him know exactly how he can support you in specific, actionable ways. For example, let him know you need more help around the house or with the kids. Remember, your relationship is a partnership, where both people are making contributions.
Step #2 Be A Woman Of Your Word
Growing a successful business takes tremendous courage and confidence. And sometimes, hitting a speed bump such as losing an important client or not making the sales you anticipated can shake a gal’s confidence.
While inwardly, you may feel like you want to crawl in bed and pull the covers over your head, this is the moment where you must stay committed to pursuing your dream. Which means instead of quitting, giving up or hiding out behind “I guess it wasn’t meant to be” you pick yourself up, learn from what happened and try again.
And be sure that when you join a coaching program or invest in training course or in home study programs that you participate actively, do the exercises, implement what you’re learning and take advantage of every benefit being offered. By demonstrating commitment to your own success, you’ll gain greater self respect…and the respect of your mate.
Step #3 Don’t Take On Your Mate’s Emotional Stuff
Watching someone pursue their dream can trigger in others feelings of frustrated ambition, fear of losing the relationship they’re accustomed to, insecurities and more. And those feelings can often erupt, causing disagreements or difficulties in your relationship.
While it’s important to be compassionate about what your partner may be going through, it’s crucial that you let them own their own feelings, and you own yours. Which means not reacting when their “little kid” is acting out, and instead, seeing them for what they are in the moment: scared.
This is a journey you’re both on and your business can be an amazing opportunity for you to stand in your power in new and exciting ways!
Your entrepreneurial journey is an extraordinary opportunity for you to live a life of meaning, contribution and fabulous income. And all because of learning how to stand in your power with feminine grace and ease, both at home and in your business.
And while I can’t promise that every moment is easy or blissful (I wish!) what I can promise is that the you that you become as a result of your entrepreneurial journey is someone you’ll be proud of!
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Award-winning, million dollar marketing coach Kendall SummerHawk is the leading expert in women entrepreneurs and money.